Children Quote by Elan Golomb
““Often, her mate is the child of a narcissist, already indoctrinated to regard exploitation and disregard as love. Others lured by the narcissistic aura are those in whom healthy childhood exhibitionism has been repressed. . . . If the parent puts the child to shame for showing off, the need for attention gets repressed into the unconscious. Repression means that the need is not satisfied and continues to press for expression in the adult without her being aware of it. The repressed adult may select an exhibitionistic mate to achieve vicarious satisfaction.””
About This Quote
People repeat early relational patterns, seeking partners who echo unmet childhood needs for validation, often unconsciously.
In simple terms: Unconscious repetition of early wounds in adult relationships.
Key Takeaway
Early emotional neglect can shape adult partner choices.
Themes
psychology
attachment
narcissism
repression
exhibitionism
Mood
reflective
somber
Type
analytical
observational
When to use this quote
- seeking validation in romance
- choosing charismatic but exploitative partners
- repeating parental dynamics
Key Concepts
unconscious motivation
family dynamics
partner selection
Practical Applications
- therapy to uncover hidden needs
- relationship counseling
Questions to Reflect On
- How might recognizing these patterns change partner choice?
- What steps can break the cycle of unconscious repetition?
