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“Your Holiness, many believe that as a monk you have renounced pleasure or enjoyment.” “And sex,” the Dalai Lama added, although that was not exactly where I was going. “What?” the Archbishop said. “Sex, sex,” the Dalai Lama repeated. “Did you just say that?” the Archbishop said incredulously. “Oh…” quote by Dalai Lama XIV
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““Your Holiness, many believe that as a monk you have renounced pleasure or enjoyment.” “And sex,” the Dalai Lama added, although that was not exactly where I was going. “What?” the Archbishop said. “Sex, sex,” the Dalai Lama repeated. “Did you just say that?” the Archbishop said incredulously. “Oh, oh,” the Dalai Lama said with a laugh, noticing the Archbishop’s surprise, and then reached over to reassure him, which caused the Archbishop to erupt in a gleeful cackle. “So aside from sex,” I said, trying to bring us back, “have you renounced pleasure and enjoyment? I sat next to you at lunch, and it looked like you were really enjoying the wonderful food. What is the role for you of enjoying the pleasures of life?” “I love food. Without food, my body can’t survive. You also,” he said, turning to the Archbishop, “can’t just think God, God, God. I cannot just think about compassion, compassion, compassion. Compassion will not fill my stomach. But, you see, each meal we have to develop the ability to consume the meal without attachment.” “Huh?” the Archbishop asked, not quite following how the Dalai Lama was using the Buddhist term attachment, and perhaps also not quite following how anyone could not be attached to one’s food. “Not eating out of greed,” the Dalai Lama explained. “Eating only for the survival of the body. One must think about the deeper value of nourishing the body.””

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About This Quote

Source Interview: The New Yorker, “The Dalai Lama on Sex and Food”, 2015

The Dalai Lama explains that enjoyment of basic needs like food is not indulgence but necessary, and that attachment to pleasure should be balanced with mindfulness and compassion

In simple terms: Enjoying food is essential, not selfish

Key Takeaway

Recognize basic needs without clinging

Themes

mindfulness compassion moderation

Mood

thoughtful lighthearted

Type

dialogue philosophical

When to use this quote

  • daily meals
  • travel
  • teaching sessions
  • public talks

Key Concepts

Buddhist ethics non‑attachment interdependence

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you balance necessary enjoyment with spiritual practice?
  • What does “attachment” mean in everyday life?
A Different Perspective

Overemphasis on detachment can lead to neglect of healthy enjoyment

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