Abuse Quote by Christine A. Courtois
““Trust of others is in short supply for many adult survivors, as complex trauma generally involves major relational betrayal. It is, therefore, expectable (although paradoxical) that clients with these histories are predisposed to be mistrustful at the outset of therapy, precisely because of (and in proportion to) the actual trustworthiness of the therapist. When past experiences have thought hard lessons, namely, that one can least afford to trust the people who should be most trustworthy, it stands to reason that confusion about trust results. The therapist must understand and not take offense either personally or professionally and not react judgmentally or defensively. Practically speaking, this involves the therapist being prepared to patiently and empathically respond to active or passive tests or challenges to trustworthiness as legitimate and meaningful communication that deserves a respectful reply in action as well as in words.””
About This Quote
Source Book: Treating Complex Trauma, 2014
Therapists should expect mistrust from trauma survivors and respond with patience and empathy, not judgment.
In simple terms: Survivors often distrust, so therapists must be patient and non‑judgmental.
Key Takeaway
Respond with empathy and respect.
Themes
trauma
trust
therapeutic alliance
Mood
clinical
compassionate
Type
educational
guidance
When to use this quote
- counseling sessions
- support groups
- initial intake
- ongoing therapy
Key Concepts
relational betrayal
clinical empathy
Questions to Reflect On
- How can you maintain professional boundaries while staying empathetic?
- What practices help you stay non‑judgmental?
A Different Perspective
Therapists may feel personally attacked, risking defensive reactions.
