“Perfectionism. My perfectionism arose as an attempt to gain safety and support in my dangerous family. Perfection is a self-persecutory myth. I… — Pete Walker Excellence Copy Share Image
“The price of admission to a relationship with an extreme narcissist is self-annihilation. One of my clients quipped: “Narcissists don’t have relationships;… — Pete Walker Relationship Copy Share Image
“jeopardy, but that he is also “a sorry excuse for a human being”. Over time, the look can make the recipient feel… — Pete Walker Fear Copy Share Image
“Dysfunctional emotional matching is seen in behaviors such as acting amused at destructive sarcasm, acting loving when someone is punishing, and acting… — Pete Walker Habits Copy Share Image
“This appears to be a mechanism of dissociation, and in this instance, it rendered my client amnesiac of my high regard for… — Pete Walker Work together Copy Share Image
“Natural anger eventually arises when we really get how little and defenseless we were when our parents bullied us into hating ourselves.” — Pete Walker Anger Copy Share Image
“Horrible world events, difficult choices, illnesses and periodic feelings of abject loneliness are common examples of existential pain.” — Pete Walker Difficult choices Copy Share Image
“The survivor may, seemingly without reason, visualize someone being abusive.” — Pete Walker Without reason Copy Share Image
“[1] a minor upset feels like an emergency; [2] a minor unfairness feels like a travesty of justice.” — Pete Walker Justice Copy Share Image
“My parents’ twisted version of this boiled down to: “As f*cked up as we are, we’re still way better than you”.” — Pete Walker Parenting Copy Share Image
“Unfortunately, premature forgiveness strands us in relationships with our parents that are as devoid of genuine warmth and intimacy as ever. Unless… — Pete Walker Forgiveness Copy Share Image
“I also like to apply “good enough” to other concepts such as a good enough job, a good enough try, a good… — Pete Walker Good enough Copy Share Image
“The worst thing about having been traumatized with the look in childhood is that we can erroneously transfer and project our memory… — Pete Walker Childhood Copy Share Image
“This is especially good news because what is learned can be unlearned and vice versa.” — Pete Walker Good news Copy Share Image
“For many survivors, authority figures are the ultimate triggers. I have known several survivors, who have never gotten so much as a… — Pete Walker Copy Share Image
“Finally, positive visualization can be a powerful adjunct to thought-substitution. Some survivors gradually learn to short-circuit the fear-mongering processes of the critic… — Pete Walker Loving friends Copy Share Image
