When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a… — John M. Gottman Adultery Copy Share Image
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt. — John M. Gottman Apocalypse Copy Share Image
I believe we're going to find that respect and affection are essential to all relationships working and contempt destroys them. — John M. Gottman Affection Copy Share Image
You don't have to be interesting. You have to be interested. — John M. Gottman Inspirational Copy Share Image
“Carnegie was right when he wrote, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than… — John M. Gottman Two months Copy Share Image
In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and… — John M. Gottman Conflict Copy Share Image
“Like the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says that in closed energy systems things tend to run down and get less orderly,… — John M. Gottman Good thing Copy Share Image
Gay and lesbian relationships operate on essentially the same principles as heterosexual relationships — John M. Gottman Gay Copy Share Image
Marriages are much more likely to succeed when the couple experiences a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions whereas… — John M. Gottman Approach Copy Share Image
“But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which… — John M. Gottman Marriage Copy Share Image
“Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do so by leading parallel lives together.” — John M. Gottman Marriage Copy Share Image
In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like… — John M. Gottman Angry Copy Share Image
“In the midst of a bitter dispute, the husband or wife picks up a ringing telephone and is suddenly all smiles: “Oh,… — John M. Gottman Marriage Copy Share Image
Bid for connection: Each of our daily interactions with another person. — John M. Gottman Connecting Copy Share Image
I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never… — John M. Gottman Adultery Copy Share Image
“Women find a man’s willingness to do housework extremely erotic.” — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
