Dossie Easton

“Bottoming can “turn off our brains” – giving us a quiet respite, in the endorphin high of pain play, the stillness of…

— Dossie Easton

Bottoms are alchemists who magically transform pain into sex.

— Dossie Easton

Do remember: your sexiness is about how you feel, not how you look.

— Dossie Easton

“The important thing is to be aware of your needs and wants, so you can go about getting them met with full…

— Dossie Easton

“One of the most valuable things we can learn from open sexual lifestyles is that our programming is changeable.”

— Dossie Easton

“When penetration is desired, the focus is on what works for the recipient: we have yet to meet a dildo that got…

— Dossie Easton

It is cruel and insensitive to interpret an affair as a symptom of sickness in the relationship, as it leaves the 'cheated-on'…

— Dossie Easton

Sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.

— Dossie Easton

“This kind of love can be thrilling and overwhelming and sometimes a hell of a lot of fun, but it is not…

— Dossie Easton

Once you have a handle on loving yourself, you can practice sharing that love with others. You’ve probably been taught to reserve…

— Dossie Easton

Increasing your repertoire has the advantage that you don't have to give up enjoying what you already like: it is always easier…

— Dossie Easton

“It felt so wonderful that she concluded that the existence of her clitoris was proof positive that God loved her.”

— Dossie Easton

“Topping, like bottoming, gives us permission to explore energies that are not OK in the outside world”

— Dossie Easton

The cultural ban on having sex with your friends is an inevitable offshoot of a societal belief that the only acceptable reason…

— Dossie Easton

We believe that every relationship is unique unto itself, and thus even an attempt to think in types and forms is not…

— Dossie Easton

“BDSM gives us permission to act in ways that are unacceptable in the outside world”

— Dossie Easton

“A final note about love: One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to…

— Dossie Easton

Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability Nothing deepens intimacy like the experiences that we share when we feel flayed, with our skins…

— Dossie Easton

“We bottom in order to go to places within ourselves and with our partners that we cannot get to without a top.…

— Dossie Easton

The real test of love is when a person—including you—can know your weaknesses, your stupidities and your smallnesses, and still love you.

— Dossie Easton

One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling…

— Dossie Easton

“Most of us need some support in asking for what we want. When we are involved in making agreements, we need to…

— Dossie Easton