Andrew Solomon

No one much wants to be belittled, but we tolerate slurs surprisingly often for ourselves; for our lionised children, we demand freedom…

— Andrew Solomon

Britain's withdrawal from the E.U., like Donald Trump's proposal to build a wall between the U.S. and Mexico, is based on a…

— Andrew Solomon

I'm not studying everything that can go wrong. What I'm studying is how much love there can be, even when everything appears…

— Andrew Solomon

The absence of words is the absence of intimacy. There are experiences that are starved for language.

— Andrew Solomon

Suicide is a crime of loneliness, and adulated people can be frighteningly alone. Intelligence does not help in these circumstances; brilliance is…

— Andrew Solomon

Being gay is immutable. Maybe someday we'll figure out more of the science and it will be changeable, but we have no…

— Andrew Solomon

I hated being depressed, but it was also in depression that I learned my own acreage, the full extent of my soul.

— Andrew Solomon

“Belonging is one of the things that makes life bearable, and it can be tough to look at a binary world and…

— Andrew Solomon

One the one hand, the simple fact that there are children and that I do have an effect on them has been…

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“I regret everything because it has just finished, and already when I was twelve, I lamented the time that had gone by.…

— Andrew Solomon

Some people are trapped by the belief that love comes in finite quantities, and that our kind of love exhausts the supply…

— Andrew Solomon

When I was growing up, I kept hoping that I wasn't really gay because I wanted to have children. I went through…

— Andrew Solomon

“The people who succeed despite depression do three things. First, they seek an understanding of what's happening. They they accept that this…

— Andrew Solomon

“Those who believe their suffering has been valuable love more readily than those who see no meaning in their pain. Suffering does…

— Andrew Solomon

Writing 'The Noonday Demon' turned me into a professional depressive, which is a weird thing to be. A class at the university…

— Andrew Solomon

Parenting involves two separate activities. You have to change your child in that you need to educate your child and instill moral…

— Andrew Solomon

Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it. Seek out…

— Andrew Solomon

“Since I am writing a book about depression, I am often asked in social situations to describe my own experiences, and I…

— Andrew Solomon

Any community that remains an abstraction is an easy target for prejudice and cruelty, but any community that becomes fully humanized is…

— Andrew Solomon

Depression is the flaw in love. There's no such thing as love without the anticipation of loss. And that specter of despair…

— Andrew Solomon

I like the relative literacy of at least some of England. I mean, I didn't come for the food or the weather!

— Andrew Solomon

The absence of marriages will result in all kinds of financial burdens that gay people wouldn't face if they could get married.

— Andrew Solomon

That, in essence, is the catastrophe of suicide for those who survive: not only the loss of someone, but the loss of…

— Andrew Solomon

Though many schizophrenics become curiously attached to their delusions, the fading of the nondelusional world puts them in loneliness beyond all reckoning,…

— Andrew Solomon

And I found out about the wonderful world of sign language. I suddenly realized: If we as a society recognize Jewish culture,…

— Andrew Solomon

There is a false moral imperative that seems to be all-around us that treatment of depression, the medications and so on, are…

— Andrew Solomon

Penalizing homosexuals does not save any innocent victims. The idea that God and the Church accept these people while they are celibate;…

— Andrew Solomon

If you look at the language of illness, you can use it to describe race - you could experience race as an…

— Andrew Solomon

I've had a mental illness for nearly half my life, and I can no longer imagine myself without it. It seems less…

— Andrew Solomon

I would certainly not want my child to be schizophrenic. I wouldn't want him or her to be a criminal either. If,…

— Andrew Solomon

If you don't want to have gay weddings in Mormon churches, that's fine. That's absolutely up to the members of the faith…

— Andrew Solomon

We think that fear must be played out in fight, with military intervention, or in flight, via isolationism - but we are…

— Andrew Solomon

“I was walking down the street today,” she said, “and I thought, I am probably dying. And then I thought, should we…

— Andrew Solomon

One has to weigh all of one's values always in relative terms. On the upside, you get people who are not acting…

— Andrew Solomon

My parents deeply and truly loved each other, and if my mother hadn't died they would have been together forever. They were…

— Andrew Solomon

I really feel that the Church leaders have blood on their hands. I feel that there are gay Mormons who have committed…

— Andrew Solomon

Antonio Gramsci said that social reformers should have pessimism of the intellect and optimism of the will. This means that one must…

— Andrew Solomon

“I’ll tell them all the good things and some difficulties. The parents may never accept what happened to them and yet accept…

— Andrew Solomon

I've chronicled the experience of the mother of a transgender child who got attacked by the Ku Klux Klan in Tennessee, and…

— Andrew Solomon

When I was younger, not being accepted made me enraged, but now, I am not inclined to dismantle my history. If you…

— Andrew Solomon