The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place… — Alice Miller Abused Copy Share Image
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Enforced love is not love. All it can lead to is a "sham" relationship without any genuine communication, a pretense of warmth… — Alice Miller Affection Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good… — Alice Miller Authenticity Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully,… — Alice Miller Accepting Copy Share Image
Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Compulsive substance addiction can have disastrous effects because it blocks off the path to genuine emotions and feelings. The drug can supply… — Alice Miller Addiction Copy Share Image
The only possible recourse a baby has when his screams are ignored is to repress his distress, which is tantamount to mutilating… — Alice Miller Ability Copy Share Image
“In every adult who has suffered abuse as a child lies dormant that small child's fear of punishment at the hands of… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“This ability of the body is a source of never-ending wonder to me. It fights against lies with a tenacity and a… — Alice Miller Nietzsche Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Action Copy Share Image
“Today's children and grandchildren are entitled to be aware, they are entitled to believe what they saw and felt as children. They… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are… — Alice Miller True story Copy Share Image
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
“The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth—the whole truth, with all its implications. Once… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a… — Alice Miller Blind Copy Share Image
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to… — Alice Miller Child Copy Share Image
“Experience has taught me that my own body is the source of all the vital information that has enabled me to achieve… — Alice Miller Confidence Copy Share Image
Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fantasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is… — Alice Miller Creation Copy Share Image
I have never known a patient to portray his parents more negatively than he actually experienced them in childhood but always more… — Alice Miller Childhood Copy Share Image
Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are… — Alice Miller Care Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Ability Copy Share Image
“As a rule, beaten, tormented, and humiliated children who have never received support from a helping witness later develop a high degree… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“As adults, we will hate only if we remain trapped in a situation in which we cannot give free expression to our… — Alice Miller Free expression Copy Share Image
“To break through this vicious circle we need to understand that so-called love cannot survive abuse, deception, and exploitation without seeking new… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing… — Alice Miller Accomplished Copy Share Image
People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both… — Alice Miller Able Copy Share Image
“Of course, people who have been severed from their true feelings since early childhood will be dependent on institutions like the church… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Accepting Copy Share Image
“The fact is that an unscrupulous tyrant mobilizes the suppressed fears and anxieties of those who were beaten as children but have… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Probably every child who has suffered abuse must assume an attitude like this in order to survive. These children reinterpret their perceptions… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“Some sense that to repress feelings of their childhood is to poison the very well-springs of life; they know that though repression… — Alice Miller Adult life Copy Share Image
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term… — Alice Miller Addiction Copy Share Image
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is… — Alice Miller Awakened Copy Share Image
Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all… — Alice Miller Best mother Copy Share Image
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents'… — Alice Miller Argument Copy Share Image
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in… — Alice Miller Adults Copy Share Image
“Can forgivenes for the crimes done to a child be not just ineffective but actively harmful? It certainly can because the body… — Alice Miller Blind eye Copy Share Image
