““The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth—the whole truth, with all its implications. Once we know as accurately as possible what our parents did to us, we are no longer in danger of repeating their misdeeds. Otherwise, we will do so automatically, and with all the tenacity at our disposal we will resist the idea that we can—and indeed must—break off our infant attachment to parents who abused us if we want to become adults and live a life of our own in peace.””
