someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For the human soul is virtually indestructible, and its ability to rise from the ashes remains as long as the body draws… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Child abuse is still sanctioned — indeed, held in high regard — in our society as long as it is defined as… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It is unlikely that someone could proclaim "truths" that are counter to physical laws for very long (for example, that it is… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
It was not the beautiful or pleasant feelings that gave me new insight, but the ones against which I fought most strongly:… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
We can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
