For the human soul is virtually indestructible, and its ability to rise from the ashes remains as long as the body draws… — Alice Miller Ability Copy Share Image
“The contents of the unconscious remain unchanged and timeless. It is only as these contents become conscious that change can begin.” — Alice Miller Change Copy Share Image
All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection — Alice Miller Born Copy Share Image
Good manners are the technique of expressing considerations for the feelings of others. — Alice Miller Compassion Copy Share Image
It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has always been disputed by the most respected… — Alice Miller Childhood Copy Share Image
The true opposite of depression is not gaiety or absence of pain, but vitality: the freedom to experience spontaneous feelings. — Alice Miller Absence Copy Share Image
One of the best ways of keeping your temper in an argument, as most of us know only too well, is not… — Alice Miller Anger Copy Share Image
Clinging uncritically to traditional ideas and beliefs often serves to obscure or deny real facts of our life history. — Alice Miller Belief Copy Share Image
“Compulsive substance addiction can have disastrous effects because it blocks off the path to genuine emotions and feelings. The drug can supply… — Alice Miller Addiction Copy Share Image
I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the… — Alice Miller Acquire Copy Share Image
someday we will regard our children not as creatures to manipulate or to change but rather as messengers from a world we… — Alice Miller Able Copy Share Image
“If We do not do everything we can to understand the roots of this hatred, even the most elaborate strategic agreements will… — Alice Miller Hatred Copy Share Image
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy. Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
“I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them,… — Alice Miller Abandonment Copy Share Image
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good… — Alice Miller Authenticity Copy Share Image
“Enforced love is not love. All it can lead to is a "sham" relationship without any genuine communication, a pretense of warmth… — Alice Miller Affection Copy Share Image
“Probably every child who has suffered abuse must assume an attitude like this in order to survive. These children reinterpret their perceptions… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it.… — Alice Miller Accepting Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Ability Copy Share Image
“As a rule, beaten, tormented, and humiliated children who have never received support from a helping witness later develop a high degree… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
Children who are respected learn respect. Children who are cared for learn to care for those weaker than themselves. Children who are… — Alice Miller Care Copy Share Image
“The only thing that can protect us from repetition is the admission of the truth—the whole truth, with all its implications. Once… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a… — Alice Miller Blind Copy Share Image
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied… — Alice Miller Parenting Copy Share Image
“Accordingly, I believe that preaching forgiveness is not only hypocritical and futile but also actively dangerous. It masks the compulsion to repeat.” — Alice Miller Forgiveness Copy Share Image
An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time. — Alice Miller Heal Copy Share Image
Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feelings. — Alice Miller Contempt Copy Share Image
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner… — Alice Miller Children Copy Share Image
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place… — Alice Miller Abused Copy Share Image
“Behind manifest grandiosity, there constantly lurks depression, and behind a depressive mood there often hide unconscious (or conscious but split off) fantasies… — Alice Miller Deep pain Copy Share Image
Discipline is ... life-inhibiting, is at the very least curtailment of vital activity insofar as the latter cannot develop as it wishes… — Alice Miller Activity Copy Share Image
The grandiose person is never really free; first because he is excessively dependent on admiration from others, and second, because his self-respect… — Alice Miller Achievement Copy Share Image
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and… — Alice Miller Activity Copy Share Image
The results of any traumatic experience, such as abuse, can only be resolved by experiencing, articulating, and judging every facet of the… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were… — Alice Miller Character Copy Share Image
Regression to the stage of early infancy is not a suitable method in and of itself. Such a regression can only be… — Alice Miller Able Copy Share Image
Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It… — Alice Miller Abuse Copy Share Image
The father receives his power from God (and from his own father). The teacher finds the soil already prepared for obedience, and… — Alice Miller Father Copy Share Image
We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and… — Alice Miller Child Copy Share Image
If we do not work on all three levels -- body, feeling, mind -- the symptoms of our distress will keep returning,… — Alice Miller Body Copy Share Image
