Ask yourself Quote by Anna Quindlen
““Set aside the old traditional notion of female as nurturer and male as leader; set aside, too, the new traditional notion of female as superwoman and male as oppressor. Begin with that most frightening of all things, a clean slate. And then look, every day, at the choices you are making, and when you ask yourself why you are making them, find this answer: Because they are what I want, or wish for. Because they reflect who and what I am. This is the hard work of life in the world, to acknowledge within yourself the introvert, the clown, the artist, the homebody, the goofball, the thinker. Look inside. That way lies dancing to the melodies spun out by your own heart.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: The New York Times, 1995
Encourages shedding gender stereotypes and embracing authentic self‑identity through daily self‑reflection.
In simple terms: Drop gender roles; discover true self.
Key Takeaway
Live intentionally, own all parts of yourself.
Themes
identity
self‑discovery
gender roles
authenticity
Mood
reflective
empowering
Type
motivational
philosophical
When to use this quote
- career decisions
- relationships
- creative projects
- personal growth
- daily journaling
Key Concepts
psychology
existentialism
self‑actualization
Questions to Reflect On
- What stereotypes still guide your choices?
- How can you honor conflicting parts of yourself?
A Different Perspective
May overlook systemic influences on identity formation.
