Mother Quote by Andrea J. Buchanan
““It’s harder than you think to admit your even occasional dissatisfaction as a mother without feeling instant guilt, an immediate sensation of shame for even suggesting you might not be happy when you’ve got a wonderful healthy child in this world who depends on you and loves you no matter what. It’s almost impossible to separate your “bad” feelings about the normal frustrations of post-baby life from your “good” feelings about the very baby who instigated the transformation. But it’s not realistic or healthy to deny the fact that a mother is a complicated person—or to deny that a mother is a person at all.””
About This Quote
Source Interview: “Motherhood and Guilt” by Andrea J. Buchanan, 2018
Mothers often feel guilt and shame for negative emotions, yet must accept their complexity and the baby’s role in their growth.
In simple terms: Mothers feel guilty for feeling unhappy, but must accept both good and bad feelings.
Key Takeaway
Accept all emotions and seek support without self‑judgment.
Themes
parenthood
mental health
guilt
self‑acceptance
family dynamics
Mood
reflective
empathetic
hopeful
Type
personal
psychological
When to use this quote
- parenting groups
- therapy
- mindful journaling
- open family communication
Key Concepts
Emotional complexity
societal expectations
self‑compassion
Questions to Reflect On
- How can mothers differentiate between healthy self‑care and perceived selfishness?
- What resources help normalize complex maternal emotions?
A Different Perspective
Guilt can be reinforced by cultural narratives, hindering honest self‑reflection.
