“we all just figure this out as we go along. There’s no textbook, there’s no rules, there’s no right way to love… — Andrea J. Buchanan Right way Copy Share Image
“In some ways love is easier as my daughter gets older. For one thing I have more feedback, more proof that my… — Andrea J. Buchanan Children Copy Share Image
“But I know my real fear about your growing older is not only about the millions of things that could happen. It… — Andrea J. Buchanan Fear Copy Share Image
“motherhood is not a job at all. It is a full-time, all-consuming, life-subsuming career with no pay, no stock options, no social… — Andrea J. Buchanan Career Copy Share Image
“Consider one study that estimates a mom simultaneously and often single-handedly performs as many as seventeen occupations in the course of raising… — Andrea J. Buchanan Children Copy Share Image
“So let’s imagine for now that our love for our children and our thankfulness for their existence is a given. Let’s imagine… — Andrea J. Buchanan Children Copy Share Image
“for the most part, my peers, like me, have embarked on the eternal compromise that is dealing with a toddler. We are… — Andrea J. Buchanan Parenting Copy Share Image
“Pre-baby I used to fantasize about winning the lottery, or becoming deliriously famous and rich. Now I fantasize about sleep. I fantasize… — Andrea J. Buchanan Sleep Copy Share Image
“I will feel the pang of separation when she is two, when she is twelve, when she is twenty. My daughter will… — Andrea J. Buchanan Children Copy Share Image
“It’s harder than you think to admit your even occasional dissatisfaction as a mother without feeling instant guilt, an immediate sensation of… — Andrea J. Buchanan Mother Copy Share Image
“Our staunch ideals of how we will raise our children get significantly reshaped by those very kids once they’re here in the… — Andrea J. Buchanan Children Copy Share Image
“I swear over everything from being woken up in the middle of the night to realizing I’ve left the wet clothes in… — Andrea J. Buchanan Middle of the night Copy Share Image
“If there is anything that makes me not want to have another baby, it is this essential conflict, this hatred of being… — Andrea J. Buchanan Division of labor Copy Share Image
