Care Quote by Andrea Dworkin
“We have a double standard, which is to say, a man can show how much he cares by being violent-see, he's jealous, he cares-a woman shows how much she cares by how much she's willing to be hurt; by how much she will take; how much she will endure; how suicidal she's prepared to be.”
About This Quote
Source Book: Women and Violence: The Politics of Terrorism, Andrea Dworkin, 1993
The quote highlights a gendered double standard where male affection is expressed through aggression, while female affection is measured by endurance of pain and self‑destruction.
In simple terms: Men show love by violence; women by suffering.
Key Takeaway
Recognize and reject harmful gender expectations.
Themes
gender roles
doubleity
violence
self‑worth
Mood
critical
reflective
Type
analytical
social commentary
When to use this quote
- relationship counseling
- activism
- support groups
- educational workshops
Key Concepts
patriarchal norms
emotional labor
toxic masculinity
Questions to Reflect On
- How do cultural narratives shape our ideas of love?
- What alternatives exist for expressing care without harm?
A Different Perspective
The view may overlook individuals who express love health, and not all men are violent.
