““If you're anxious, when you start to feel something is bothering you in a relationship, you tend to quickly get flooded with negative emotions and think in extremes. Unlike your secure counterpart, you don't expect your partner to respond positively but anticipate the opposite. You perceive the relationship as something fragile and unstable that can collapse at any moment. These thoughts and assumptions make it hard for you to express your needs effectively.””
![“Whether plain or gorgeous, we've learned to appreciate [secure-type people] for what they really are -- the "supermates" of evolution -- and we hope that you will too.” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/106/amir-levine-19091_biology_whether-plain-or-gorgeous-we-ve-learned_760581.jpg)
![“our culture encourages you [with an anxious attachment style] to believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or not for someone else is beside the point. They are essential for your happiness, and that is what's important.” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/789/amir-levine-19091_happiness_our-culture-encourages-you-with-an-anxio_796547.jpg)
![“Oxytocin, a hormone and neuropeptide ... plays a major role in attachment processes and serves several purposes: It causes women to go into labor, strengthens attachment, and ... [increases] trust and cooperation. We get a boost of oxytocin in our brain during orgasm and even when we cuddle…” quote by Amir Levine](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/676/amir-levine-19091_quality-time_oxytocin-a-hormone-and-neuropeptide-play_849739.jpg)
![“People who tend to [suppress their negative emotions] regularly,” concludes Grob, “might start to see the world in a more negative light.” quote by Susan Cain](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/img-quotes/428/susan-cain-647_negative-emotions_people-who-tend-to-suppress-their-negati_74753.jpg)
