I can only see right in front of me when I'm writing, you know? I never think of it as raw or… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think we all are born inside of our parents' narratives. We stay there for a good while. We are taught their… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I didn't know enough as a writer to understand why I needed to do this, but I understood in a very gut… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
You don't know how people are going to respond. But I would add to that, that getting your heart broken is not… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think trauma gets a reductive treatment. We tend to think only violence or molestation or total abandonment qualify as "childhood trauma,"… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think the addiction stuff, because I was already sort of outed in my family as a sexual person: as a sexually-adventurous… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
We often think that "bad" relationships are motivating by self-loathing or a wish for self-destruction, but I think that loving people who… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
When I was in college I started writing prose, because a very smart professor asked me what I like to read and… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I couldn't have articulated this process at the time; I just sort of did it instinctually. But now when I talk about… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
Being a dominatrix, sticking my foot up people's asses for money, necessitated that I divorce myself from any sort of objective perspective… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I absolutely think that women told that writing about themselves is somehow not worthy enough for a public audience all the time.… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think that more so, my wonderful skill of dissociation came in very handy. I care very much what other people think.… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I more seriously considered publishing it under a pseudonym than I considered publishing it as fiction. I think the decision to write… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
My father was raised by a violent alcoholic. There was alcoholism in my mother's family. I'm half-adopted, and my birth father was… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think that's the job of the writer, right? Not to introduce new ideas or feelings, but to name the ones we… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
Because of the irresistible nature of our own Imagos, I think the replication of it in music is a siren song -… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
Sometimes I see my students, especially the ones with a gift for the lyrical, reaching far outside the realm of their own… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
Even though novels were the love of my life, I started off writing poetry. I think because I had a knack for… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I never think about anything in my brain. I think in very small repetitive circles inside my own brain. That's why I'm… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
Letting go of the cozy stories you've been carrying around is devastating. But there's more room for new stuff after you do it. — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
When you conceal inner reality, this pressure builds. You often don't expose yourself until it reaches extremity, a breaking point, and what emerges is… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I can only see right in front of me when I'm writing, you know? I never think of it as raw or personal or… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“I have always been afraid to have children. I didn't want to give them the parts of me--the hurtling hunger, the shame--but now I… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“There are still times when he and I fall into our respective labyrinths. I no longer believe that anyone but ourselves can lead us… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I think we all are born inside of our parents' narratives. We stay there for a good while. We are taught their narratives about… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“Maybe that's all bravery is: when your hunger is greater than your fear. I resist the implication that bravery is noble. I must face… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“I have always enjoyed watching women dress. The appeal isn't sexual. Most girls' first glimpse of private female life is watching their mothers dress… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“It was the first time anyone had broken up with me. It was a thing I had successfully avoided for thirty-two years.” — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
I can still discern people's weaknesses, but it doesn't make me want to exploit them; it makes me want to hug them. — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“There is a moment in your 20s when you know what it means to love rightly, but not how to do it, and then… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
“The labyrinth, after all, is Sarah's creation. She calls upon the Goblin King. And this is the biggest difference between my brother's afflictions and… — Melissa Febos Copy Share Image
