“Fear triggers the fight-or-flight response, fueled by adrenaline, which, as it turns out, is chemically related to amphetamines. Granted, it's a very different kind of high for mindfuckers: not a mellow, floaty "my vulva is one with the universe" high… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“That's what's so ironic about the conservative backlash against BDSMers. With increased visibility comes increased bigotry, and conservatives continue to rally against kinky events… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“EXERCISE Creating Authentic Relationships The questions below deal with issues most people take for granted and let society define for them. You can start with a blank canvas and create your own definitions. • How do you define intimacy and closeness? • What constitutes a relationship for you? • Are there different types of relationships you wish you could have?… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share
“You can't plan for everything: obstacles will still come up that you never talked about-that it never even occurred to you to discuss. Issues… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“It is a relationship that is flexible enough to allow for change and that is constantly being renegotiated in the light of changing needs,… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“It would be unwise to agree to nonmonogamy for the following reasons or with these hidden motives: • You’re so in love with the person that while your gut is telling you no, you decide to say yes and will deal with it later. • You believe your partner likes the idea as an abstract concept, but it won’t actually… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share
“Nonmonogamous folks recognize that during a lifetime you can and will be attracted to other people even if you are in a wonderful, fulfilling… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“Open relationships can give you the freedom to create unique relationships, explore yourself and your sexuality, and challenge society's expectations.” — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“This is the myth of finding "the One": the one partner you're "meant" to be with, your soul mate, your Prince Charming, the girl… — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“Hotel-Room Coffee Tables I’ll admit to this one. They’re just not as sturdy as they look. It’s really hard to find wood glue at 9 a.m., before checkout.” — Tristan Taormino Copy Share
“[I}t is more common that people are monogamous not by choice, but by default.” — Tristan Taormino Copy Share Image
“I think we are doing poor sex education if we don't look at how erotic behavior actually takes place, and offer people interventions that are reasonable. - Pat Califia” — Tristan Taormino Copy Share
