The myth of independence from the mother is abandoned in mid- life as women learn new routes around the mother--both the mother without and the mother within. A mid-life daughter may reengage with a mother or put new controls on… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents swing from euphoric self-confidence and a kind of narcissistic strength in which they feel invulnerable and even immortal, to despair, self-emptiness, self-deprecation. At… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Parents are never forgiven for not giving just the right response at the appropriate moment. Or, rather, there are particular times in the adolescent's… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Preoccupied with her self, the adolescent sees enormous changes, whereas the parent sees the child she knew all along. For the parent, new developments… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescence has been recognised as a stage of human development since medieval times--long, long before the industrial revolution--and, as it is now, has long… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescent girls were fighting a mother's interference because they wanted her to acknowledge their independence. Whatever resentment they had was not towards a mother's… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents, for all their self-involvement, are emerging from the self-centeredness of childhood. Their perception of other people has more depth. They are better equipped… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Adolescents do get very angry with their parents, and acknowledging this anger is part of acknowledging them. If the anger is notacknowledged then its… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
This is the hope of many adolescent girls--to capture a parent's heart with love for them as they are, as people. They reject thenotion… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
The adolescent does not develop her identity and individuality by moving outside her family. She is not triggered by some magic unconscious dynamic whereby… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
It is not however, adulthood itself, but parenthood that forms the glass shroud of memory. For there is an interesting quirk in the memory… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
Parenting can be established as a time-share job, but mothers are less good "switching off" their parent identity and turning to something else. Many… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
We may be aware of small increments of getting older; we may meet an increasing number of people who make us uneasy with their… — Terri E Apter Copy Share Image
