The parent who loves his child dearly but asks for nothing in return might qualify as a saint, but he will not qualify as a parent. For a child who can claim love without meeting any of the obligations of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
A method of child-rearing is not--or should not be--a whim, a fashion or a shibboleth. It should derive from an understanding of the developing… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
We must remember when we speak of the "negativism" of the toddler that this is also the child who is intoxicated with the discoveries… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
Whenever reality reinforces a child's fantasied dangers, the child will have more difficulty in overcoming them...So, while parents may not regard a spanking as… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
Our survival as a human community may depend as much upon our nurture of love in infancy and childhood as upon the protection of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
It no longer makes sense to speak of "feeding problems" or "sleep problems" or "negative behavior" is if they were distinct categories, but to… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
The experience of a sense of guilt for wrong-doing is necessary for the development of self-control. The guilt feelings will laterserve as a warning… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
It seems to me that we have to draw the line in sibling rivalry whenever rivalry goes out of bounds into destructive behavior of… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
There must be a solemn and terrible aloneness that comes over the child as he takes those first independent steps. All this is lost… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
We find that the child who does not yet have language at his command, the child under two and a half, will be able… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
Parents who want a fresh point of view on their furniture are advised to drop down on all fours and accompany the nine or… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
An older child, one who possesses a conscience, will be troubled with self-reproaches and feelings of shame for his naughtiness, even if he is… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
The child begins life as a pleasure-seeking animal; his infantile personality is organized around his own appetites and his own body. In the course… — Selma Fraiberg Copy Share Image
