Shannon Thomas

“Rather than being insecure, psychological abusers are easily offended, consumed with themselves, and want things just their way.   Each”

— Shannon Thomas

“Rarely does a toxic person give an authentic apology. To do so would be too much evidence that they are just like…

— Shannon Thomas

“Toxic people absolutely refuse to have normal human flaws and weaknesses. They do not see themselves as average people.”

— Shannon Thomas

“psychological abusers damage others – not out of impaired judgement – but because they enjoy the control they gain from abusing people.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Our quality of life will be seriously impaired if we are withdrawn into isolation and lack moments of hope in our daily…

— Shannon Thomas

“Resist remaining in any level of denial. The truth is painful to see, but necessary.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Tenderness from empaths will be used against them time and time again by psychological abusers.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Toxic people are great actors. They will utilize whichever props are available to maintain control in the relationship.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Psychologically abusive families can never be without a targeted victim. Otherwise, they would have to look at their own individual issues and…

— Shannon Thomas

“When an abuser gaslights, he or she sets up situations to make the target doubt their own memories and assessments of situations.…

— Shannon Thomas

“If we have a high level of emotional capacity, it predisposes us to stay in abusive environments longer. That is not a…

— Shannon Thomas

“Some are quietly deteriorating the person’s self-esteem through the emotional game of abandonment. Being present physically but checked out emotionally is not…

— Shannon Thomas

“The most important point is that the girl’s moods are not changing because she’s moody. She is conditioning the boy to always…

— Shannon Thomas

“Each one of us is more likely to believe someone when they point out our flaws and can connect what we know…

— Shannon Thomas

“Frequently, the emotional homicide is happening while other people go on clamoring about what a great guy or gal the abuser is…

— Shannon Thomas

“This is because in the legalistic church, God (or pronounced “Gawd” if you’re in the southern regions of the country) is coming…

— Shannon Thomas

“Your loved one was authentic in his or her feelings towards the other person. However, your loved one met a con-artist. The…

— Shannon Thomas

“It is a source of power and entertainment for a toxic person to destroy an originally healthy and happy person. This point…

— Shannon Thomas

“A psychological abuser will find a survivor’s emotional soft spots and exploit them for control and entertainment.”

— Shannon Thomas

“I use the term survivor to describe what some might call a victim. I hope you can embrace the word survivor because…

— Shannon Thomas

“Unraveling the lies and replacing them with truth is at the heart of the recovery journey for survivors of psychological abuse.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Denial is a powerful human component that cannot be ignored in the context of psychological abuse.”

— Shannon Thomas

“People should never underestimate a psychological abuser’s ability to hide the truth. They are not even honest with themselves and truly believe…

— Shannon Thomas

“A Sociopath will run you over, scold you for being in their way, and have a smirk because secretly they get entertainment…

— Shannon Thomas

“Some people wonder if abusers can feel love or affection for their targets. The answer to that depends on your own definition…

— Shannon Thomas

“I have been known to tell survivors, who are remaining in contact with intensely toxic people, that I cannot continue to work…

— Shannon Thomas

“The important point to remember is that most outwardly expressed emotions of psychological abusers are for a distinct purpose; that is usually…

— Shannon Thomas

“Denial is a powerful human component that cannot be ignored in the context of psychological abuse. Ironic, right? Denial is the exact…

— Shannon Thomas

“By the time survivors are compelled to leave their psychologically abusive relationships, they do not see any other viable option but to…

— Shannon Thomas

“The stereotype is that only men are narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths. That is completely incorrect. There are many women who are the…

— Shannon Thomas

“Many survivors will work their way through the first stage of Despair, second stage of Education, third stage of Awakening, and find…

— Shannon Thomas

“Who doesn’t want to be loved by their family?”

— Shannon Thomas

“Chronic selfishness and parenting do not go together.   Bonded”

— Shannon Thomas

“The Idealize phase is when manipulators and their new targets first meet.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Boundaries are the foundation for regulating a high degree of compassion for other people.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Normal people have a hard time comprehending that abusers go to such lengths, but they do.”

— Shannon Thomas

“Research shows it takes people many attempts to leave unhealthy relationships.”

— Shannon Thomas

“The key is to not follow the toxic person into their vortex of lies.”

— Shannon Thomas

“An educated survivor can, and will, guard against future abuse.”

— Shannon Thomas

“These numbers show that among the participants of the study, “Mom” (or a mom figure) was the primary family abuser.”

— Shannon Thomas