“Like the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says that in closed energy systems things tend to run down and get less orderly, the same seems to be true of closed relationships like marriages. My guess is that if you do… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt. — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
I believe we're going to find that respect and affection are essential to all relationships working and contempt destroys them. — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
“Carnegie was right when he wrote, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance. — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
“Like the Second Law of Thermodynamics, which says that in closed energy systems things tend to run down and get less orderly, the same… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
Gay and lesbian relationships operate on essentially the same principles as heterosexual relationships — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
Marriages are much more likely to succeed when the couple experiences a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions whereas when the… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
“But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
“Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do so by leading parallel lives together.” — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer… — John M. Gottman Copy Share Image
