“The person who experiences disruption of bonding recoils and withdraws emotionally. He does not experience his need, the hunger for love. Instead, he buries his needs deep inside, so he can no longer be hurt. This withdrawal is called defensive… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present. — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“Are we paying attention to what is important, inhibiting the things that will not help or will hurt us, and keeping current?” — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“Neglecting them leads to spiritual and emotional problems; having them met, however, frees us to meet the needs of others cheerfully and without resentment.… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“we need people to whom we can talk and who will understand without invalidating our feelings by saying the following: You shouldn’t feel that… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“What appear to be dangerous and even bad periods in some lives can actually bring them closer to the Lord, because these individuals honestly… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“We are drawn to Jesus because “he learned obedience from what he suffered” (Heb. 5:8). People who are growing up are also drawn to… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy, and you have to… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel. — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives. — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
“Forgiveness and opening up to more abuse are not the same thing. Forgiveness has to do with the past. Reconciliation and boundaries have to… — Henry Cloud Copy Share Image
