“There are many paths you can follow to forgiveness. that was one: Understand that your present is different from your past. Here's another: Focus on how it's hurt you not to forgive yourself and on what you need to be… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
“If you see someone struggling with sadness, anxiety, and negativity, listen to his story. You'll soon see he's living in a world where all… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
“I can see every day that a squirrel's perfectly at home in a world of trees. But imagine taking that squirrel and plunking him down in the middle of the desert. This wonderful animal will suddenly feel depressed, anxious, confused, completely at a loss. There are plenty of animals who make a home in the desert, but not the squirrel.… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share
“The bad event gave you the strength you needed in your foundation to make possible the next wonderful thing in your life.” — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
“Some people are able to forgive when they realize that the other person just couldn't help it, because he or she was sick, damaged, or limited somehow. Some people find forgiveness when they realize the other person has suffered more than they have. We also find forgiveness when we realize the other person has suffered enough, even if he or… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share
“If you've been fortunate enough to discover that the meaning of what happened to you is that you have something far more to offer than you ever imagines, you have to offer it. Bring it out of yourself and into the world. This isn't easy. It takes trial and error. You might find obstacles to discovering how an artistic talent… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share
Another way to put an end to self-rejection is ask yourself whether what you're telling yourself is what a friend would say, or what an enemy would. Friends are supportive. Enemies put us down and undermine our confidence. So if you say something that an enemy would say, stop. Answer back, 'I'm going to be supportive of myself. As a… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share
“Think about your story in a new way,' the wise person says. 'You've been thinking of it as a loss. Now think of it as a liberation. What happened to you--it actually freed you up. And it didn't just free you up any old way. It freed you from some dead weight of the past so you could find a… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share
Things happen to help you get rid of the parts of yourself that aren't you; to help you be more real and more yourself,… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
“Diagnostic question #15 . Does your partner neither see nor admit things you’ve tried to get him to acknowledge that make your relationship too… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
Just as physical energy comes from diet, exercise and rest, emotional energy comes from the ways you take care of yourself emotionally -- living… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
Perfectionism is a time waster - 20 percent of the effort you put into any project accomplishes 80 percent of the outcome - so… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
“If you’ve made it clear what your real bottom lines are and your partner’s violated them anyway, then by definition you will not be… — Mira Kirshenbaum Copy Share Image
