Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them? — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
As soon as you say, "are you feeling X because I ..." Then the Jackal starts to salivate because he can educate… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In a Giraffe institution, the head nurse job would be to serve the nurses, not to control them. Teachers are there to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
To practice NVC, it's critical for me to be able to slow down, take my time, to come from an energy I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Instead of playing the game "Making Life Wonderful", we often play the game called "Who's Right". Do you know that game? It's… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do?… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We are this divine energy. It's not something we have to attain. We just have to realize it, to be present to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
