Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Learning is too precious to be motivated by coercive tactics. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Unless we as social change agents come from a certain spirituality, we're likely to create more harm than good. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In these long-standing conflicts, I find that most cases it gets resolved in about twenty minutes after each side can tell me… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Public education for some time has been heavily focused on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students. Life-Enriching Education is… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Natural Giving: Anything we do in life which is not out of that energy, we pay for and everybody else pays for.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable,… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
I'm going to show you a technology today which takes insults and criticisms out of the airwaves. (Marshall puts on giraffe ears)… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
“Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going in which people… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other.… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
