“If you are avoidant, the first step, therefore, is to acknowledge your need for space—whether emotional or physical—when things get too close, and then learn how to communicate that need. Explain to your partner in advance that you need some… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“It's important to remember that even with effective communication, some problems won't be solved immediately. What's vital is your partner's response--whether he or she… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Other studies have found that faced with a stressful life event ... avoidants' defenses are quick to break down and they then appear and… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“...being happy and fulfilled is probably one of the most attractive traits you can offer a partner.” — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“It is very important that you be compassionate with yourself. The worse you feel about yourself, the more you'll want to go back to… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“people with a secure attachment style are more likely than others to forgive their partner for wrongdoing. ...secure people just naturally dwell less on… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“There are many charming, intelligent people out there who can make you happy, but there are also many who are not right for you.… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Whether plain or gorgeous, we've learned to appreciate [secure-type people] for what they really are -- the "supermates" of evolution -- and we hope… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“our culture encourages you [with an anxious attachment style] to believe that many of your needs are illegitimate. But whether they are legitimate or… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Oxytocin, a hormone and neuropeptide ... plays a major role in attachment processes and serves several purposes: It causes women to go into labor,… — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“Feeling close and complete with someone else -- the emotional equivalent of finding a home” — Amir Levine Copy Share Image
“if you're with someone secure, they nurture you into a more secure stance.” — Amir Levine Copy Share Image