“High-reactive kids also tend to think and feel deeply about what they’ve noticed, and to bring an extra degree of nuance to… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
As a parent, if give yourself what you need, your children will watch you doing that and will give themselves what they… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“[P]arents need to step back from their own preferences and see what the world looks like to their quiet children.” — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“The next generation of quiet kids can and should be raised to know their own strengths.” — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“High-reactive children pay what one psychologist calls “alert attention” to people and things. They literally use more eye movements than others to… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“high-reactive child’s ideal parent: someone who “can read your cues and respect your individuality; is warm and firm in placing demands on… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
It's important for a parent to learn to take delight in a child whose behavior might seem mystifying. In the case of… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“You can also teach your child simple social strategies to get him through uncomfortable moments. Encourage him to look confident even if… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“In our culture, guilt is a tainted word, but it’s probably one of the building blocks of conscience. The anxiety these highly… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“If a high-reactive toddler breaks another child's toy by mistake, studies show, she often experiences a more intense mix of guilt and… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“No!" Kagan exclaims. “Every behavior has more than one cause. Don’t ever forget that! For every child who’s slow to warm up,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Functional, moderate guilt,” writes Kochanska, “may promote future altruism, personal responsibility, adaptive behavior in school, and harmonious, competent, and prosocial relationships with… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Proverbs from the East: The wind howls, but the mountain remains still. Even though I make no special attempt to observe the discipline of… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“where we fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Our place on this continuum influences our choice of friends and mates, and how we make conversation,… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they’re good talkers, but they don’t have good ideas,” he… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“He believes, as most of us do, that venting anger lets off steam. The “catharsis hypothesis”—that aggression builds up inside us until it’s healthily… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Soft power is not limited to moral exemplars like Mahatma Gandhi. Consider, for example, the much-ballyhooed excellence of Asians in fields like math and… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Events like this don't give me the sense of oneness others seem to enjoy; it's always been private occasions that make me feel connected… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Social anxiety disorder”—which essentially means pathological shyness—is now thought to afflict nearly one in five of us. The most recent version of the Diagnostic… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“So when introverts assume the observer role, as when they write novels, or contemplate unified field theory- or fall quiet at dinner parties- they’re… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“Osborn’s theory had great impact, and company leaders took up brainstorming with enthusiasm. To this day, it’s common for anyone who spends time in… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we've turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform. — Susan Cain Copy Share Image
“But as the word satyagraha implies, Gandhi’s passivity was not weakness at all. It meant focusing on an ultimate goal and refusing to divert… — Susan Cain Copy Share Image