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“It was quite unlike their friendly discourse of some days before, and presently Stephen grew sadly bored: lies or half-lies, he reflected, had a certain value in that they gave a picture of what the man would wish to seem; but a very few were enough for that. And then they had a striving…” quote by Patrick O'Brian
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““It was quite unlike their friendly discourse of some days before, and presently Stephen grew sadly bored: lies or half-lies, he reflected, had a certain value in that they gave a picture of what the man would wish to seem; but a very few were enough for that. And then they had a striving, aggressive quality, as though the listener had to be bludgeoned into admiration; they were the antithesis of conversation.””

Patrick O'Brian

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Conversation can become performative, where speakers prioritize impression over truth, turning dialogue into a battle for admiration rather than genuine exchange.

In simple terms: Talk can become a show, not a true chat.

Key Takeaway

Seek honest dialogue over performance.

Themes

communication authenticity power dynamics

Mood

critical observational

Type

literary psychological

When to use this quote

  • team meetings
  • debates
  • social gatherings

Key Concepts

literature psychology

Questions to Reflect On

  • When have you felt a conversation was more about image than truth?
  • How can you encourage sincere exchange?
A Different Perspective

Performance may mask true feelings, limiting trust.

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