The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to…
“The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to get worse as relationships get more serious. The more history and commitment that develop in the couple, the more the abuser comes to think of his partner as a prized object. Possessiveness is at the core of the abuser's mindset, the spring from which all the other streams spout; on some level he feels that he owns you and therefore has the right to treat you as he sees fit.”
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Abusers view partners as possessions, intensifying abuse as relationships deepen.
In simple terms: Abusers see partners as objects, worsening abuse over time.
Recognize ownership language as a red flag.
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When to use this quote
- counseling
- relationship education
- legal interventions
- support groups
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How does perceived ownership affect victim safety?
- What interventions can disrupt possessive thinking?
Abusers may also rationalize behavior, making change difficult.