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“Abuse is not his goal, but control is, and he finds himself using abuse to gain the control he feels he has a right to.” quote by Lundy Bancroft
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““Abuse is not his goal, but control is, and he finds himself using abuse to gain the control he feels he has a right to.””

Lundy Bancroft

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Abusers seek control, using abuse as a tool to maintain a perceived right to dominate.

In simple terms: Control drives abusive behavior.

Key Takeaway

Recognize control motives behind abuse.

Themes

power control abuse relationships

Mood

anxious defensive

Type

cautionary insightful

When to use this quote

  • dating
  • family therapy
  • legal counseling
  • personal safety

Key Concepts

psychology coercive control

Questions to Reflect On

  • How can you differentiate control from genuine concern?
  • What boundaries protect you from covert abuse?
A Different Perspective

Abusers may also manipulate victims emotionally, not just physically.

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