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“But the lie had to be a good one, because if your lie is badly done it makes everyone feel wretched, liar and lied-to alike plunged into the deepest lackadaisy, and everyone just feels like going into the other room and drinking a glass of water, or whatever is available there, whereas if you can…” quote by Donald Barthelme
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““But the lie had to be a good one, because if your lie is badly done it makes everyone feel wretched, liar and lied-to alike plunged into the deepest lackadaisy, and everyone just feels like going into the other room and drinking a glass of water, or whatever is available there, whereas if you can lie really well then get dynamite results, 35 percent report increased intellectual understanding, awareness, insight, 40 percent report more tolerance, acceptance of others, liking for self, 29 percent report they receive more personal and more confidential information from people and that others become more warm and supportive toward them--all in consequence of a finely orchestrated, carefully developed untruth.””

Donald Barthelme

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

A well-crafted lie can manipulate perceptions, yielding social benefits and deeper insight, but it also risks emotional harm and ethical decay.

In simple terms: Skillful deception can gain trust and information, yet may cause distress.

Key Takeaway

Use honesty to build genuine trust.

Themes

deception communication ethics social dynamics psychology

Mood

ambivalent cautious critical

Type

analytical philosophical

When to use this quote

  • political negotiation
  • marketing
  • personal relationships
  • conflict resolution

Key Concepts

manipulation trust information gathering emotional impact

Questions to Reflect On

  • When does a lie become harmful?
  • Can truth ever be as effective as a lie?
A Different Perspective

Lies can erode long‑term credibility and damage relationships.

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