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“We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward man, cowardly in the presence of a brave one, gross in the eyes of a refined one, and so on. We always imagine, and in imagining share, the judgments of the other mind.” quote by Charles Horton Cooley
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“We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward man, cowardly in the presence of a brave one, gross in the eyes of a refined one, and so on. We always imagine, and in imagining share, the judgments of the other mind.”

Charles Horton Cooley

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

People judge themselves by comparing to others, feeling shame or pride based on perceived social status

In simple terms: Self‑judgment depends on others’ perceived qualities

Key Takeaway

Recognize and question social comparisons

Themes

social perception self‑esteem status anxiety

Mood

analytical critical

Type

sociological reflective

When to use this quote

  • workplace dynamics
  • social media
  • family gatherings
  • public speaking

Key Concepts

social psychology identity formation interpersonal judgment

Questions to Reflect On

  • What standards do you use to judge yourself?
  • How do you resist peer pressure?
A Different Perspective

Comparisons can be inaccurate or harmful

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