Henry Cloud

As a psychologist, I can tell you that there are people who look very good in a group, but they're very different…

— Henry Cloud

Boundaries are basically about providing structure, and structure is essential in building anything that thrives.

— Henry Cloud

Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about.

— Henry Cloud

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

— Henry Cloud

Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.

— Henry Cloud

Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real…

— Henry Cloud

When leaders lead in ways that people's brains can follow, good results follow as well.

— Henry Cloud

Some people's developmental path has not equipped them to stand up and let go of something.

— Henry Cloud

I'm not an expert in the sociological realities of all the pastors in the world, but I would say that there are…

— Henry Cloud

Don't use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and don't worry about it if you mess up one day.…

— Henry Cloud

“If a person’s character makeup determines his future, then child rearing is primarily about helping children to develop character that will take…

— Henry Cloud

“When we fail to express our needs, we remain islands unto ourselves—detached, alone, arrogant, and proud. But when we expose our needs,…

— Henry Cloud

“A good supportive relationship cherishes the no of all parties involved. The members know that true intimacy is only built around the…

— Henry Cloud

“Don’t let life pass you by as you shrink back. Don’t let passivity create a mummylike, survival-type existence for you. Find people…

— Henry Cloud

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the…

— Henry Cloud

“We grow in part by confessing our faults and weaknesses to each other (James 5:16; Eccl. 4:10). If we are always being…

— Henry Cloud

“Seeking God first means that we know him as the God of grace who is for us. He is the one who…

— Henry Cloud

Grief is accepting the reality of what is. That is grief's job and purpose-to allow us to come to terms with the…

— Henry Cloud

“After all, the ultimate goal of learning boundaries is to free us up to protect, nurture, and develop the lives God has…

— Henry Cloud

“Many people wish for a different universe than the one in which we live. They want one where every day is harvest…

— Henry Cloud

The twin sister to autonomy and freedom is responsibility and accountability. You cannot have one with out the other. If someone is…

— Henry Cloud

“We often fear being honest because it was not safe to express honesty in our earthly relationships. With Job we fear both…

— Henry Cloud

“This principle is illustrated when the psalmist says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov.…

— Henry Cloud

“a spouse is taking a part of his heart away from his mate and bringing it to an outside source. This is…

— Henry Cloud

“The person who experiences disruption of bonding recoils and withdraws emotionally. He does not experience his need, the hunger for love. Instead,…

— Henry Cloud

“So getting your brain to move to create an ending, and getting the people around you to do the same, is going…

— Henry Cloud

“Grace is the first ingredient necessary for growing up in the image of God. Grace is unbroken, uninterrupted, unearned, accepting relationship. It…

— Henry Cloud

“Bernard is caring, helpful, and enjoyable to be with. Everybody loves him. And he really loves people. But Bernard is a relational…

— Henry Cloud

“WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT WAS BONDING. Bonding is one of the most basic and foundational ideas in life and the universe.…

— Henry Cloud

“Sometimes the condemning, judging spotlight of the perfectionist gets turned from himself to his relationships. And it is just as stark and…

— Henry Cloud

“The Armor of God 10Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11Put on the full armor of God,…

— Henry Cloud

Leaders set a very clear path every day, in a thousand different ways, of what the people must attend to, inhibit, and…

— Henry Cloud

Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as "Taking," you are not getting it.

— Henry Cloud

Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other's space and are champions of each other's causes.

— Henry Cloud

We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we're going to need the…

— Henry Cloud

A person who hasn't grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.

— Henry Cloud

“Are we paying attention to what is important, inhibiting the things that will not help or will hurt us, and keeping current?”

— Henry Cloud

We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.

— Henry Cloud

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment” (1 John 4:18).”

— Henry Cloud

Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed.

— Henry Cloud