Henry Cloud

Being right can never compete with doing well.

— Henry Cloud

It is true that you get what you tolerate.

— Henry Cloud

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick” (Prov. 13:12).”

— Henry Cloud

“Character = the ability to meet the demands of reality.”

— Henry Cloud

True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.

— Henry Cloud

“hard on the issue, soft on the person.”

— Henry Cloud

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

— Henry Cloud

Christianity is not about morality. It's about reality.

— Henry Cloud

The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with…

— Henry Cloud

Dating is primarily a numbers game… People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way…

— Henry Cloud

“The most important tool ultimately is the person and his or her makeup, and yet it seems to get the least amount…

— Henry Cloud

“For he never thought of doing a kindness, but hounded to death the poor and the needy and the brokenhearted” (Ps. 109:16,”

— Henry Cloud

“Be wary of someone who has never failed, or seem to have no faults... Too good to be true usually is. Perfection…

— Henry Cloud

You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right…

— Henry Cloud

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven” (Eccl. 3:1).”

— Henry Cloud

There's no better way to become a disintegrated character than to be your own authority.

— Henry Cloud

“One of the most important types of decision making is deciding what you are not going to do, what you need to…

— Henry Cloud

Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some…

— Henry Cloud

Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to…

— Henry Cloud

The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful…

— Henry Cloud

For someone's character to grow, it has to be free from internal attack. Falling down never stopped children from developing. But getting…

— Henry Cloud

Physical presence provides chemical, relational, psychological and physiological effects that virtual relationships cannot. Our brains change in the presence of another person…

— Henry Cloud

“What appear to be dangerous and even bad periods in some lives can actually bring them closer to the Lord, because these…

— Henry Cloud

“Developing boundaries in young children is that proverbial ounce of prevention. If we teach responsibility, limit setting, and delay of gratification early…

— Henry Cloud

“We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships.…

— Henry Cloud

Oftentimes, churches are started by an entrepreneurial church plant visionary whom everybody follows, but he's not following anybody. Even though he's "accountable…

— Henry Cloud

“we need people to whom we can talk and who will understand without invalidating our feelings by saying the following: You shouldn’t…

— Henry Cloud

“How does envy destroy our safety? By spoiling any chance to be loved. When we envy, we resent those who have something…

— Henry Cloud

“People who apologize quickly may act like they are sorry or as if they are interested in holiness, but they are really…

— Henry Cloud

“Psalm 1, which compares us to trees planted by streams of water, suggests that our growth has different “seasons.” Some seasons are…

— Henry Cloud

“Many couples have trouble with this aspect of marriage. They feel abandoned when their spouse wants time apart. In reality, spouses need…

— Henry Cloud

“That’s how envy can spoil safety. Envy makes us resent people who have something we don’t have. It feeds on itself and…

— Henry Cloud

“Sooner or later, someone will say a no to us that we can’t ignore. It’s built into the fabric of life. Observe…

— Henry Cloud

“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where i end and someone…

— Henry Cloud

“You said to get involved with people, that I can’t learn about connections in a vacuum.” I agreed. “So what’s not working?”…

— Henry Cloud

“Numerous New Testament passages teach that we need to forsake our allegiance to our original family and become adopted by God (Matt.…

— Henry Cloud

“This false solution is last for a reason. Doing without is the final resting place of many who have tried the first…

— Henry Cloud

“That’s why time-friendly people tend to make fewer emotional commitments than my friend Bernard does. They have a profound understanding of how…

— Henry Cloud

“Mark is a walking dilemma, one of those people who’s hard to figure out. He is an unmarried Christian professional man with…

— Henry Cloud

“I saw this vividly when I visited my parents’ home, where two of my three sisters, Susan and Cris, were still living.…

— Henry Cloud