Henry Cloud

Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

— Henry Cloud

“learning principles helps more than learning techniques.”

— Henry Cloud

Diligence is not easy, but we can't reach our goals without it.

— Henry Cloud

The opposite of bad is not good.The opposite of bad is love

— Henry Cloud

“Grace must come from the outside of ourselves to be useful and healing.”

— Henry Cloud

You aren't alive if you aren't in need.

— Henry Cloud

“Amy had a secret place deep inside where no one was ever invited.”

— Henry Cloud

Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.

— Henry Cloud

Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is…

— Henry Cloud

Every human being must have boundaries in order to have successful relationships or a successful performance in life.

— Henry Cloud

“Remember that the antidote to perfectionism isn’t being good—it’s being loved.”

— Henry Cloud

When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.

— Henry Cloud

“At some level, we all know that “making it” involves more than talent or ability. It has something to do with personhood…

— Henry Cloud

Part of executive functions is the ability to look to a goal deadline and assess where an organization is in meeting it.

— Henry Cloud

“The difference between responding and reacting is choice. When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are. Learn”

— Henry Cloud

I think that God will provide opportunities and people and experiences, and everything we need to date and ultimately to find the…

— Henry Cloud

The business of church is ultimately people. You're trying to heal people, grow people, teach people, and mend people. And when leaders…

— Henry Cloud

“This hostility is a poor counterfeit of God’s program of learning discipline. Discipline is the art of teaching children self-control by using…

— Henry Cloud

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a body has…

— Henry Cloud

There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow.…

— Henry Cloud

“Boundaries are a “litmus test” for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will…

— Henry Cloud

“The responses you get may be along the lines of, “After all I’ve done for you and the company, this is the…

— Henry Cloud

“Workers who continually take on duties that aren’t theirs will eventually burn out. It takes wisdom to know what we should be…

— Henry Cloud

To grow, we need things that we do not have and cannot provide, and we need to have a source of those…

— Henry Cloud

“A child cannot tolerate a mother’s anger. She either splits from the relationship, or she becomes terrified. Neither alternative promotes freedom and…

— Henry Cloud

“Every relationship has problems, because every person has problems, and the place that our problems appear most glaringly is in our close…

— Henry Cloud

Dating is not only a wonderful time of life, but also a context for enormous spiritual and personal growth. You learn so…

— Henry Cloud

When we can't hold back, or set boundaries, on what comes from our lips, our words are in charge-not us. But we…

— Henry Cloud

“Don’t get angry with your spouse for her weakness! This is the worst thing you can ever do. It is using your…

— Henry Cloud

“Forgiveness and opening up to more abuse are not the same thing. Forgiveness has to do with the past. Reconciliation and boundaries…

— Henry Cloud

“Page 99: "...unless something changes, the future that you can expect is more of the past. Sorry or becoming committed does not…

— Henry Cloud

“There is always safety in the truth, whether it be knowing God’s truth or knowing the truth about yourself. Many people live…

— Henry Cloud

“How does our self-sufficiency ruin safety? Primarily by preventing us from experiencing our impoverishment. People who “have it together” are not hungry,…

— Henry Cloud

“Entitlement is a demand for special treatment. Instead of being grateful for ordinary, “good-enough” resources and situations, we demand the best. Here…

— Henry Cloud

“If I walk out of my office today and get hit by a drunk driver, that will not be my fault. But…

— Henry Cloud

“In some cases, perfectionists may forgive other people’s sins, but be unable to receive forgiveness themselves. Many perfectionists will sabotage potentially good…

— Henry Cloud

“In safe relationships, empathy is a large part of the equation. We literally “enter the other person’s head” and attempt to understand…

— Henry Cloud

“Page 142: "When a spouse says to the alcoholic, "you need to go to AA," that is obviously not true. The addict…

— Henry Cloud

“Time is an important ingredient for growth, but sometimes we pass through time and get better; at other times we pass through…

— Henry Cloud

“Christian psychologist is called in; if it’s a spiritual problem, the pastor gets the call. We assume that our depression, panic, guilt,…

— Henry Cloud