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“To look deep into your child's eyes and see in him both yourself and something utterly strange, and then to develop a zealous attachment to every aspect of him, is to achieve parenthood's self-regarding, yet unselfish, abandon. It is astonishing how often such mutuality had been realized - how…” quote by Andrew Solomon
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““To look deep into your child's eyes and see in him both yourself and something utterly strange, and then to develop a zealous attachment to every aspect of him, is to achieve parenthood's self-regarding, yet unselfish, abandon. It is astonishing how often such mutuality had been realized - how frequently parents who had supposed that they couldn't care for an exceptional child discover that they can. The parental predisposition to love prevails in the most harrowing of circumstances. There is more imagination in the world than one might think.””

Andrew Solomon

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Seeing oneself and the unfamiliar in a child creates a deep, self‑sacrificing love that can thrive even in hardship.

In simple terms: Seeing yourself and the unknown in a child fuels deep love.

Key Takeaway

Embrace both similarity and mystery in parenting.

Themes

parenthood selflessness identity love imagination

Mood

reflective hopeful intimate

Type

philosophical inspirational

When to use this quote

  • raising a child
  • supporting a child with special needs
  • navigating family crises
  • cultivating empathy

Key Concepts

psychology philosophy family dynamics

Questions to Reflect On

  • How does recognizing the 'strange' in your child change your expectations?
  • What barriers prevent you from fully embracing your child's uniqueness?
A Different Perspective

Parents may project their own expectations, limiting true mutuality.

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