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“'Can't really say?' Nick said, and heard, as he sometimes did, his own father's note of evasive sympathy. It was how his family sidled round its various crises; nothing was named, and you never knew for sure if the tone was subtly comprehensive, or just a form of cowardice.” quote by Alan Hollinghurst
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““ 'Can't really say?' Nick said, and heard, as he sometimes did, his own father's note of evasive sympathy. It was how his family sidled round its various crises; nothing was named, and you never knew for sure if the tone was subtly comprehensive, or just a form of cowardice.””

Alan Hollinghurst

About This Quote

This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation.

Family members often avoid naming crises, using vague sympathy that can mask cowardice.

In simple terms: Families sometimes dodge direct discussion of problems, hiding true feelings.

Key Takeaway

Address issues directly rather than using evasive sympathy.

Themes

family dynamics communication avoidance

Mood

reflective somber

Type

psychological relational

When to use this quote

  • counseling
  • family meetings
  • conflict resolution
  • personal journaling
  • support groups

Key Concepts

emotional avoidance cowardice

Questions to Reflect On

  • Why do we sometimes hide our true feelings?
  • How can honest dialogue improve relationships?
A Different Perspective

Avoidance may protect short‑term peace but hinders resolution.

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