Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them? — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Teacher, school administrators and parents will come away from Life-Enriching Education with skills in language, communication, and ways of structuring the learning… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Imagine connecting with the human spirit in each person in any situation at any time. Imagine interacting with others in a way… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognize the needs and values expressed… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share Image
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Two questions help us see why we are unlikely to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What do I… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
Everything we do is in service of our needs. When this one concept is applied to our view of others, we'll see that we… — Marshall B. Rosenberg Copy Share
