The free expression of resentment against one's parents represents a great opportunity. It provides access to one's true self, reactivates numbed feelings,… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
That probably greatest of narcissistic wounds -- not to have been loved just as one truly was -- cannot heal without the… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Only the mourning for what one has missed at the crucial time can lead to real healing. — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
The achievement of freedom is hardly possible without the felt mourning. This ability to mourn, i.e, to give up the illusion of… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Depression leads him close to his wounds, but only the mourning for what he has missed, missed at the crucial time, can… — Alice Miller Copy Share Image
Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e.,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one's parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Even if one ultimately risks losing all contact with oneself and merely functioning as a mask, an "as if" personality, there are always drugs,… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history.… — Alice Miller Copy Share
People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them, but who also therefore had to solve their own… — Alice Miller Copy Share
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding. — Alice Miller Copy Share
Ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, cigarettes or medicine, it usually has the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the… — Alice Miller Copy Share
For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable tollon society--a fact that… — Alice Miller Copy Share
“The older we get, the more difficult it is to find other people who can give us the love our parents denied us. But… — Alice Miller Copy Share
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious… — Alice Miller Copy Share
We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if… — Alice Miller Copy Share
