The person who is "in-love" has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
You cannot force someone to accept an expression of love. You can only offer it. If it is not accepted, you must… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“With enough criticism, you may get acquiescence from your spouse. He may do what you want, but probably it will not be… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Before marriage, we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
It is universal to give gifts as an expression of love. My academic background is anthropology, the study of cultures. We have… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
You need to listen to your friends when they point out things about the person you're in love with. Listen to them,… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“and no one likes to be forced to do anything. In fact, love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
One of the things I say is, 'You cannot control your spouse, but you can influence your spouse.' And one of the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Inside every child is an 'emotional rani's waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“We have been led to believe that if we are really in love, it will last forever. We will always have the… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Research seems to indicate that there is a third and better alternative: We can recognize the in love experience for what it… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Before I discovered the concept of the 5 love languages, a bit of advice I was given was to become a student… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Covenant love requires two factors: knowledge of the nature of love and the will to love. Understanding the 5 love languages will… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Good marriages are built upon a combination of emotional love and a common commitment to a core of beliefs about what is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Love is the most important word in the English language--and the most confusing.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty LOVE TANK. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“People who are "in love" lose interest in other pursuits. That is why we call it "obsession.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Learning the love language of acts of service will require some of us to reexamine our stereotypes of the roles of husbands… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. (1 Cor 13:5) — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Love is the most powerful weapon in the world for good. I really believe that. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup. — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it… — Gary Chapman Copy Share Image
Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
On the other hand, if I walk in the house, I don't even bother to find her, I just walk in the den and… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“I look for three things in hiring people. The first is personal integrity, the second is intelligence, and the third is a high energy… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.” — Gary Chapman Copy Share
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
Sometimes when the spouse is really the culprit, it is hard to admit what you consider your little failures, but if you are going… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage.… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry. — Gary Chapman Copy Share
We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
“If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing… — Gary Chapman Copy Share
![“We have been led to believe that if we are really in love, it will last forever. We will always have the wonderful feelings that we have at this moment. Nothing could ever come between us. Nothing will ever overcome our love for each other. [..] Unfortunately, the eternality of the in-love…” quote by Gary Chapman](https://sms4smile.com/q/img-quotes/877/gary-chapman-1325_age-life_we-have-been-led-to-believe-that-if-we-a_1071018.jpg)
