The happiest people are focused on living their own life (not someone else's) as well as possible. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
deception and 'con games' are a way of life in all species and throughout nature. Organisms that do not improve their ability… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
The rush of sexual attraction can act like a drug and blur our capacity for clear thinking. This can lead us to… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
Relationships are most likely to fail when we don't address problems or hold our partner accountable for unfair or irresponsible behavior ...… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“Countless self-help books, blogs and seminars promise relief from suffering, when pain and suffering are as much part of life as happiness… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
The best apology, I think, was from my husband, Steve, who slept with a close friend of mine decades back, when we… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share Image
“Letting go of anger and hate requires us to give up the hope for a different past, along with the hope of a fantasized… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.” — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
If you exchanged wedding vows, tape them to your bathroom mirror and read them aloud to yourself every morning along with the ritual brushing… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“People's sense of self worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they've caused. The more solid one's sense of… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
“Everyone freaks out. Sometimes the best we can do with fear is befriend it. Expect it and understand that fear will always reappear. Eventually… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
There are some things for which there is no apology, and on the question of slavery, there is no adequate apology for ripping people… — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard. — Harriet Lerner Copy Share
