Excellence Quote by William Hazlitt
“We often choose a friend as we do a mistress - for no particular excellence in themselves, but merely from some circumstance that flatters our self-love.”
About This Quote
Source Essay: “On Friendship” (1819)
Friendships are sometimes chosen for how they flatter our ego rather than for genuine merit, mirroring the way we select lovers.
In simple terms: We pick friends to boost our self‑image.
Key Takeaway
Value relationships for their intrinsic worth.
Themes
friendship
ego
self‑love
Mood
thoughtful
critical
Type
philosophical
observational
When to use this quote
- social circles
- romantic partnerships
- professional networks
- online communities
Key Concepts
flattery
motivation
Questions to Reflect On
- Why do we gravitate toward flattering companions?
- How can we recognize and nurture authentic friendships?
A Different Perspective
Such choices can lead to shallow, unsatisfying bonds.
