““...something can be a good thing and yet not a necessary thing. It is good for people to be expert at brain surgery. But if you are not a brain surgeon, you are no less human. Or a different sort of analogy: it is good for human beings to have language, but one is no less human if one's language is French rather than Mandarin Chinese, or Sign rather than English. Or yet another: a child, once she exists, is a unique good, but prior to coming into being, she was not necessary. So marriage and be good without being needful; although good, it is not a 'manner of life' that all people should enter. And even though not all people need marry, that does not make it a bad thing.””
