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Children Quote by Thornton Wilder

“The knowledge that she would never be loved in return acted upon her ideas as a tide acts upon cliffs. Her religious beliefs went first, for all she could ask of a god, or of immortality, was the gift of a place where daughters love their mothers; the other attributes of Heaven you could have for…” quote by Thornton Wilder
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““The knowledge that she would never be loved in return acted upon her ideas as a tide acts upon cliffs. Her religious beliefs went first, for all she could ask of a god, or of immortality, was the gift of a place where daughters love their mothers; the other attributes of Heaven you could have for a song. Next she lost her belief in the sincerity of those about her. She secretly refused to believe that anyone (herself excepted) loved anyone. All families lived in a wasteful atmosphere of custom and kissed one another with secret indifference. She saw that the people of this world moved about in an armor of egotism, drunk with self-gazing, athirst for compliments, hearing little of what was said to them, unmoved by the accidents that befell their closest friends, in dread of all appeals that might interrupt their long communion with their own desires. These were the sons and daughters of Adam from Cathay to Peru. And when on the balcony her thoughts reached this turn, her mouth would contract with shame for she knew that she too sinned and that though her love for her daughter was vast enough to include all the colors of love, it was not without a shade of tyranny: she loved her daughter not for her daughter's sake, but for her own. She longed to free herself from this ignoble bond; but the passion was too fierce to cope with.””

Thornton Wilder

About This Quote

Source Novel: The Bridge of San Luis Rey, 1927

The narrator reflects on unrequited love, misplaced devotion, and self‑absorbed egotism that pervades human relationships, recognizing both the selfishness in love and the yearning for freedom from it.

In simple terms: She sees love as selfish and people as self‑centered.

Key Takeaway

Recognize selfish motives and seek genuine compassion.

Themes

love selfishness ego freedom family

Mood

melancholic reflective

Type

literary philosophical

When to use this quote

  • marriage
  • parenting
  • friendships
  • social gatherings

Key Concepts

existentialism psychology human nature

Questions to Reflect On

  • How do you balance love for others with self‑interest?
  • What limits does ego place on authentic connection?
A Different Perspective

Self‑interest can blind one to others' needs.

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