Incapable Quote by Thomas Merton
“We cannot love ourselves unless we love others, and we cannot love others unless we love ourselves. But a selfish love of ourselves makes us incapable of loving others.”
About This Quote
Source Book: "The Seven Storey Mountain", 1948
Self‑love and love for others are interdependent; selfish self‑love hinders true compassion.
In simple terms: Loving others requires loving yourself, but not selfishly.
Key Takeaway
Practice self‑compassion that extends outward.
Themes
spirituality
relationships
self‑care
compassion
Mood
reflective
serene
Type
spiritual
philosophical
When to use this quote
- counseling
- community service
- personal meditation
- relationship building
- volunteering
Key Concepts
theology
psychology
ethics
Questions to Reflect On
- How does self‑compassion differ from selfishness?
- How can you balance self‑care with caring for others?
A Different Perspective
Self‑love can become narcissism if unchecked.
