Ahead of time Quote by Sarah Dessen
““He glanced over at me. 'Scared? Of Reggie? What, she thinks he might force her to give up caffeine for real or something?' 'No,' I said. 'Of what, then?' he asked. I paused, only just now realizing that the subject was hitting a little close to home. 'You know, getting hurt. Putting herself out there, opening up to someone.' 'Yeah,' he said, adding some cheese straws to the car, but risk is just part of relationships. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't.' I picked up a box of cheese straws, examinig it. 'Yeah,' I said. 'But it's not all about chance, either.' 'Meaning what?' he asked, taking the box from me and adding the rest. 'Just that, if you know ahead of time that there might an issue that dooms everything- like, say, you're incredibly controlling and independent, like Harriet- maybe it's better to acknowledge that and not waste your time. Or someone else's.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen, 2009
Relationships involve risk; recognizing personal flaws early can prevent wasted effort and pain.
In simple terms: Know your limits and patterns to avoid doomed relationships.
Key Takeaway
Identify and address personal issues early.
Themes
relationships
self-awareness
risk
communication
Mood
reflective
thoughtful
Type
advice
conversational
When to use this quote
- dating
- friendships
- career partnerships
Key Concepts
psychology
personal growth
boundaries
Questions to Reflect On
- What patterns repeat in your relationships?
- How can you discuss boundaries without fear?
A Different Perspective
People may resist change even when aware of issues.
