Clothes shopping Quote by Roxane Gay
““In my teens and early twenties, I often went clothes shopping with my mother and I could always see her dismay at where I am forced to shop. I could see that she wished her daughter had a different body. I could see her humiliation and frustration. ... I harbored no small amount of frustration, or anger, for her words, for her disappointment in me, for my inability to be a good daughter, for one more thing I couldn't have – the simple pleasure of having fun while shopping with my mother.””
About This Quote
Source Essay: “The Body Is Not an Apology”, 2017
The narrator feels frustration and anger over her mother’s disappointment about her body and the loss of simple joys like shopping together.
In simple terms: Mother’s expectations cause hurt and resentment.
Communicate openly about body image.
Themes
Mood
Type
When to use this quote
- shopping trips
- family gatherings
- self‑acceptance
Key Concepts
Questions to Reflect On
- How can families discuss body image healthily?
- What personal boundaries can protect joy?
Resolution may require difficult conversations.