Falling in love Quote by Richard Ford
““And now, while he didn't particularly think any of these stories was a bit truer, he did realize that he didn't really know his wife at all; and that in fact the entire conception of knowing another person--of trust, of closeness, of marriage itself--while not exactly a lie since it existed someplace if only as an idea (in his parents' life, at least marginally) was still completely out-of-date, defunct, was something typifying another era, now unfortunately gone. Meeting a girl, falling in love, marrying her, moving to Connecticut, buying a fucking house, starting a life with her and thinking you really knew anything about her--the last part was a complete fiction, which made all the rest a joke.””
About This Quote
Source Novel: The Sportswriter, Richard Ford, 1986
The narrator realizes his assumptions about intimacy and marriage are outdated, recognizing that true knowledge of a partner is elusive and often imagined.
In simple terms: He discovers he never truly knew his wife; marriage is based on an outdated idea.
Key Takeaway
Questioness deeper understanding beyond surface assumptions.
Themes
relationships
marriage
self‑knowledge
illusion
trust
Mood
reflective
melancholic
Type
philosophical
narrative
When to use this quote
- marriage counseling
- personal reflection
- relationship therapy
- self‑exploration
Key Concepts
identity
subjectivity
social expectations
Questions to Reflect On
- How do we reconcile idealized expectations with reality?
- What steps can foster genuine intimacy?
A Different Perspective
Assumes all relationships start with complete knowledge, which is rarely true.
