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“Some very elegant dishes were served up to himself and a few more of us, whilst those placed before the rest of the company consisted simply of cheap dishes and scraps. There were, in small bottles, three different kinds of wine; not that the guest might take their choice, but that they might not…” quote by Pliny the Younger
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““Some very elegant dishes were served up to himself and a few more of us, whilst those placed before the rest of the company consisted simply of cheap dishes and scraps. There were, in small bottles, three different kinds of wine; not that the guest might take their choice, but that they might not have any option in their power; one kind being for himself, and for us; another sort for his lesser friends (for it seems he has degrees of friends), and the third for his own freedmen and ours. My neighbour . . . asked me if I approved the arrangement. Not at all, I told him. "Pray, then," he asked, "what is your method upon such occasions?" "Mine," I returned, "is to give all my visitors the same reception; for when I give an invitation, it is to entertain, not distinguish, my company: I place every man upon my own level whom I admit to my table." . . . He replied, "This must cost you a great deal." "Not in the least." "How can that be?" "Simply because, although my freedmen don't drink the same wine as myself, yet I drink the same as they do." And, no doubt about it, if a man is wise enough to moderate his appetite, he will not find it such a very expensive thing to share with all his visitors what he takes himself. Restrain it, keep it in, if you wish to be true economist. You will find temperance a far better way of saving than treating other people rudely can be. . . . Remember, then, nothing is more to be avoided than this modern alliance of luxury with meanness; odious enough when existing separate and distinct, but still more hateful where you meet with them together.””

Pliny the Younger

About This Quote

Source Letter: Epistulae, Book 6, Letter 24, 1st century AD

Treating guests equally reflects humility and temperance, avoiding luxury and meanness together.

In simple terms: Equal hospitality shows wisdom and modesty.

Key Takeaway

Offer the same respect to all.

Themes

hospitality equality moderation ethics

Mood

reflective thoughtful

Type

philosophical ethical

When to use this quote

  • dinner parties
  • business meetings
  • family gatherings
  • public events

Key Concepts

social hierarchy generosity frugality

Questions to Reflect On

  • What does equal treatment cost you?
  • How can you practice moderation without feeling deprived?
A Different Perspective

Balancing generosity with personal limits can be challenging.

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